Trying to relax just produces more tension. However when the body comes to recognise that there is a higher energy with which it wishes to be joined, then it relaxes. You do not have to do it.
If one can come to see the divisions within oneself and not be taken by the reaction to try and change it, just accept, then one is brought under another, higher influence – but we are so taken by the illusion of ‘we can do’ that we do not see. To see and be seen is a cause for rejoicing.